Happy New Year!
For most, including me, this is the time of year where I reflect most on my life, my goals, and where I see myself at this time next year. Not only is it a new year, but in a few days, it's my birthday. Another year has come and gone and I'm another year older. When I first started making life goals I planned for big ones, 5 years, 10 years etc. As I've gotten older and been faced with disappointment and challenges I've learned that things can change in an instant. While I still set a few major goals, I prefer to set smaller more obtainable one. Ones I can accomplish in 6 - 12 months. It keeps me motivated and focused. You can't beat that sense of accomplishment you feel when you've achieved something you've worked for. Some people are disciplined enough to wait to feel that gratitude... I'm not! I'm one of those people who stop eating potato chips and expect to feel like I'm in the best shape of my life within 24 hours.
My big goal for 2018 is to find a home, we've been renting for the past four years. Anthony and I bought our first home when we were 21, we were so proud and worked for hard for that house. When we were 25 we sold our little townhouse and upgraded to a new semi-detached, almost 800sqft bigger. Morgan was due to arrive a month after we moved in. Needless to say, we were proud and felt accomplished. Then life stepped in and we rode a financial rollercoaster from 2010-2013. Ultimately we decided it was the best decision for us to sell our home. We had planned to downsize and keep the profit in savings. Anthony was out working in Alberta at the time and I was home with a 3-year-old and a newborn house hunting. Our house sold quickly and we didn't want to settle so we decided to rent. The plan was 1 year, and we've been here 4. Sometimes I feel ok that we are here renting and other times I feel embarrassed and ashamed. Like we went backward on life's milestones. I used to dream of a big home with lots of unused rooms, now I just dream of a small place that we own and can make into our dream home, lots of outdoor space for the kids to play and be kids.
Goal number 2 for 2018 and my 33rd year is to do more for me. Like most Moms, I'm the first one up, the last one to go to bed, the last one to eat, the only one who doesn't rest when they are sick. It's become clear to me that I need to be a good role model for my children, I need to show them that I care about myself just as much as I care about them. I don't want Kendall to grow up thinking this Mom and wife role is laid out for her. I want her to be more like her Auntie Kristina. A mom of 4, who has a career, many achievements, who can make the most beautiful cake you've ever seen but who can work until 9 pm and not feel guilty for not making it home in time to make dinner. (She Credits the support of her husband Chris for being able to manage her career as a lawyer and her family. )
I have a few goals for Tesser Traditions but I need to refine them a little before I share.
Goal number 3 is to continue having a healthy lifestyle, eating well, and keeping up with my yoga. When people first recommended yoga to me I was skeptical but after a few classes, I was hooked. I went to a local studio a few times and then started practicing at home. I turn on a class or two from BOHO Beautiful and I'm set. My mind is constantly going and over thinking so having a 20-40 minute period every day where I can focus on being calm and spiritual is something I truly need.
Goal number 4 is to be good and kind. Gentle, caring, and empathetic.
Now, more than ever this world needs compassion. Things aren't always as they seem and you never know who is fighting something big. Tell the ones you love that you do, tomorrow isn't guaranteed. Give without receiving and live life to the fullest.
I would love to know some of your goals and resolutions, Let me hear them in the comments below or send me an email.
- Megan xox